In a world where technical skills and academic achievements often take the spotlight, it's easy to overlook the profound impact that emotional intelligence can have on our overall well-being and success. Developed by psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer in the early 1990s, the concept gained widespread attention thanks to Daniel Goleman's groundbreaking book, "Emotional Intelligence," which highlighted its significance in various aspects of life. How will you know you have high EQ? This short list of questions may give you some clues or point you to someone who operates on high emotional intelligence. While not comprehensive by any means, Daniel Goleman put together these questions to help anyone understand where they stand against the high bar of EQ.
Are you usually aware of your feelings and why you feel the way you do?
Are you aware of your limitations, as well as your personal strengths, as a leader?
Can you manage your distressing emotions well -- e.g., recover quickly when you get upset or stressed?
Can you adapt smoothly to changing realities?
Do you keep your focus on your main goals, and know the steps it takes to get there?
Can you usually sense the feelings of the people you interact with and understand their way of seeing things?
Do you have a knack for persuasion and using your influence effectively?
Can you guide a negotiation to a satisfactory agreement, and help settle conflicts?
Do you work well on a team, or prefer to work on your own?
If you don't like the answers you provided to these questions, then review some of our older blog posts and start working on your EQ.